Mandatory celibacy is an almost 1,000 year old law. It was a time when I would be burned at the stake for what I am writing today. This law is still present, but we don’t get burned anymore—yet we still get persecuted and hated for standing against it. At last, I would like to shed some light on certain things that I feel are necessary to contemplate and question…
In my early twenties, I had once confided in my mother that I was tired of always being the one to do the first step toward reconciliation, typically when I was in dispute with one of my siblings. Her response was – to keep on doing it. Her wise answer shocked me but she was right, and it remained with me since.I learned to grow spiritually with this sage advice.
In our Society, we are bound to want, and we want it now. It is also part of our nature, and it is not always for our good. Mostly when it comes to the struggles we encounter – we want answers. This seemingly trivial but finer point of impatience is what I would like to discuss.
One day or another, we must face some event or situation that makes us suffer to varying degrees. Being human, we typically want to know why it is happening to us and we want answers right away because we feel hurt, sad, or disappointed.
Judgment is not based so much on the perception of what we see, but more on what we feel about what we see. If we judge with our emotions, we can’t be objective, but if we choose to be objective, then we tend not to judge.
When we find ourselves in front of someone, it is only the tip of an iceberg standing in front of us, and lurking deep down in the waters, the iceberg is unknown to us. Each person comes with a baggage of experiences that made that person who he/she is. Continue reading →
During the years I was struggling with my emotional battle with the Church, I learned to use my will power to be able to gain some control over my emotions. As silly as it can sound, I discovered the choice of forgiving – that forgiveness is a matter of my will.
My experience with The Grief Recovery Method, founded in the mid-1980’s by John W. James.
After being cut off by the clergy from the man I love, I couldn’t cope with the pain. Every day I felt that a part of me inside had died. I couldn’t reconcile the fact that I had to be without him for the rest of my life. So much had not been said, so much had not been completed. I was not even allowed to have closure, and that devastated me for the last 16 years. I went through one form of therapy to another for many years without being able to heal this wound that I was bearing. The sad thing about therapists is that most of them are trying to help you fix your brain. My brain was fine; it was my heart that was broken. Continue reading →